Do you feel called to be a pastor’s wife, and as a pastor’s wife, what do you feel your role is in the ministry?
I have to admit that no one has ever asked these questions before, so it took me by surprise. I never really thought of myself as being “called.” But once I had a chance to think about it, I guess the best answer is as follows:
When God called my husband to be a pastor, He called me to be a “pastor’s wife.” I think God has been preparing me for this calling even before we knew we would be called to full-time ministry. God has prepared me by giving me the ability to listen well, to encourage, and to teach. I have a burden for people, and a desire to help them transform into the image of Christ (to become Christians). I want to encourage Christians, in particular, to “never give up,” even if they feel they have disappointed God by their actions. We are all sinners in need of God’s grace and forgiveness.
I feel my role is to support my husband—to be his “help-mate” (Genesis 2:18). I think God has prepared me for my role as a pastor’s wife by equipping me through education (I think the MA in Christian Counseling has trained me to see harmful behavioral patterns in people, and the PhD I am working on getting is helping me to understand how to address basic needs and guide people in the right direction). My husband and I have a burden to help marriages in crisis (Malachi 2:16). In addition, I want to help women grow to be more godly (Titus 2:3-5).
So, to answer the question, I feel that God has called me to be a pastor’s wife and my role is to support my husband in bringing people to Christ.