For the past couple of days I have been thinking about things I regret. I know it was triggered by the sudden death of one of my professors; in fact, I tend to think about these things when people around me die.
The last communication I had with that one professor was an email. My husband and I were thinking of having a marriage seminar at our church and we had asked Dr. C. if he could lead it. He told us his price and we said it was too much money for our church so he offered to give us his PowerPoint presentation so that we could lead the seminar ourselves.
We put off having the event for another year. A few months ago, I thought about writing to ask him about the PowerPoint. Now I will no longer be in communication with him and I will never get his slide presentation.
I heard that my father-in-law wanted to talk to me just before he died. We called but he was asleep. I never had the chance to talk to him. Every so often I would wonder what he wanted to tell me, but now I’ll never know.
When I heard that my grandmother died I was devastated. I was in the habit of writing to her, but I kept putting off talking to her on the phone. I wanted to tell her about Jesus and to present the gospel to her, but I kept telling myself that I had plenty of time and that there would be another day to call. I never had that opportunity because she died suddenly.
There are other regrets—things I wish I had never done or things I wish I could change. Sometimes I play the events in my head and think, “What if I had done that instead?” No matter how much I think about these things, it doesn’t change anything. I know they are all distractions meant to keep me trapped in the past rather than living in the present and looking forward to the future.
Isaiah 43:18 says, “Do not call to mind the former things, Or ponder things of the past” (NASB). This one verse makes me realize that I shouldn’t focus my attention on things I can’t change.
I think we experience regret so that we won’t make the same mistake. It also makes me realize that I shouldn’t put off something for another day when I am thinking about it today.
We shouldn’t put off things that we want to do until tomorrow because as the Scripture says, “…you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow…” (James 4:14).
Are there things that you have been putting off? Don’t delay any longer— do it today!